There are many reasons that can cause someone to feel insecure. Insecurity prominently stems from your upbringing, where as children you feel unloved, or rejected, or criticised by your parents or primary caregiver. This experience will impact on children in their later years and into adulthood. Trauma from abuse can …
HAPPINESS – Practical steps to increase your happiness
Are you happy with your life? Are you searching for happiness? Do you know what makes you happy? Surely every one of us wants to have a happy life. You might think “IF ONLY” I have plenty of money to pay off the mortgage, or for going on holidays, or …
ARE you?
Conflict resolution skills are one of the profound needs in any relationships, at both personal and professional levels. Over two decades as a Psychotherapist/Counsellor, I have observed that conflict resolution is at the top of the list that people bring in when they come to relationship/marriage counselling. However, the big …
BURNOUT – How to avoid a burnout.
Burnout can happen to anyone and in different areas of life. Many believe that burnout is often related to your job or at the professional level. However, burnout can also happen in any relationship. For example, burnout in a marriage occurs when one party continually pursues an emotional bond, while …
APOLOGISING – DOES APOLOGISING MATTER FOR RELATIONSHIPS?
Every relationship, whether at a personal level or professional level, will experience some conflict throughout their lifetime. Some people try to resolve their conflict by apologising, and others by ignoring it or putting it under the carpet and hoping that their issue will go away with time. WHAT CAUSES PEOPLE …
GRIEF and LOSS – How to grieve healthily
Grief and Loss – how to grieve healthily when you have lost someone or something you loved. Often people relate grief and loss to when someone has passed away. However, grief and loss also happens when your relationship/marriage ends in separation/divorce, with the death of a pet, losing your job, losing …
STEP-FAMILIES – Increasing healthy relationships in the step-family life
There are many relationships/marriages that end up in separation/divorce, then form a new relationship and a step-family soon after. In the past, step-families have been seen as second rate compared to nuclear families. Nowadays, this view has shifted and step-families are more accepted as another form of family. However, many …
HOW A CONFLICT CAN BENEFIT RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE
A relationship/marriage can benefit from a conflict, and in fact, conflict can help you to achieve a healthy relationship/marriage. Therefore, conflict in itself is actually not a bad thing, but it is how you resolve the conflict that will determine whether it is good or bad for your relationship/marriage. HOW …